If you have suffered heartbreak, chances are you feel like you are wallowing under water unable to breathe.
People invest a lot in a relationship; creating something beautiful together, trusting one another, caring for each other and in no time at all, everything disappears. The aftermath is always one of anger, sorrow and serious recollections and questions about the future and yourself. As you deal with heartbreak with a desire to heal and move on, there are dos and Don’ts to help you.
If you want to seethe with anger and engage in emotional outbursts that leave you vulnerable and hurt beyond measure and in a worse state than you were, initially, try calling and making forced contact with the individual who left you. You might find another woman or man in his or her life and the reality could drain you emotionally and cause a sorrow like no other.
Clinging To Memories
Handling a breakup is not everyones cup of tea, most of us love going to the default position of self-pity and rummaging through things that remind us about the guy or girl we loved. While this might look very good, it will leave you with tears and you cannot start the healing process that way. You need to throw away or destroy all memories of the individual. If it is a painting he bought you, find another. If it was a recipe he adored, deal with it. Any memory about the person will crack your delicate heart again.
Stalking On All Fronts
Perhaps you have a strong urge to know what the ex is doing at home, the bar, gym, on Facebook or while walking down the street. You could find yourself feeling a strong urge to follow him or her at home and see the friend who came calling and if there is a possibility of something strong growing between them. Even his or her status update on Facebook is of high interest in you, including all the people responding and commenting. You stalk them too, finding for clues on whether anyone could be a special person now in their life. Such stalking is crazy and could destroy you mentally.
Find Some Me Time
You must find some time to be with yourself. Thinking about the ex who left for weeks or months another must come to an end. It is time to change yourself and look at life differently again. There are many exciting challenges to surmount and everything does not have to remain down forever. Getting back your life and into that happy single person before you entered into the sour relationship is very important.
Enjoy What You Love
Rather than remain in the house all day mulling about your lost love, simply wear striking clothes that you adore, put on a positive mien and a happy face and eat great food from a restaurant you have always wanted. You can take weekends off along to cook, hike or surf alone or with friends. You can also visit your family or friends on the other side of the country and surround yourself with the people who love and care about you the way you are. If charity really begins at home, it is possible your life could change henceforth from such a visit to your people.
This article is written by Crystal who is a psychiatrist by profession and writes guidelines on her blog on how to handle relationship crisis.